You are the Light of the World

Different people give off some very different vibes, and we are all quite sensative of these vibes. You can get hostile vibes from people that keep you away from them, you get vibes when you think someone might be a bit dangerous, you get a friendly vibe off an outgoing person. In my opinion, there is one thing that strangles every vibe you can give off and that is self-consciousness.

Have you ever realised that the people you are drawn towards in conversation are the one's that have absolutely no self-consciousness at that time? It's true how they say that people are their most beautiful when they aren't thinking about how they look. That they are the most appealing when they are being completely themselves without fear of how they seem or sound. It's that self-assuredness that I can tell this joke or make this comment because I'm not even thinking about how it's going to make ME look. People who push everything they have inside themselves outwards and think openly about others are the one's that seem the nicest, the funniest...

Then the flipside: when we are self-conscious, we push everything we have inwards. We don't let any of our naturalness (great word there...) show. We strangle ourselves off and this suddenly makes our shine fade. The eye is drawn to the brightest light, but to be so self-aware puts that inner shine deep within us.

That's not to say that people who are self-conscious or self-aware have trouble finding friends or being themselves or having success. The thing is, selv-conscious people to have trouble, they make trouble where there is none. They tell themselves "this doesn't look good" or "I can't pull this off" and by doing that they're making all these statements true. I don't mean to talk about 'self-conscious people' as a race of their own. Everyone's self-conscious at one time or another. Myself included, a lot of the time. The point I'm getting at is that, ironically, it's all a vicious cycle. We worry about looking bad, or not being cool enough, and we send out those vibes and as a result, that is how people view us. We cause the problem, and then struggle underneath it unnecessarily.
When I think about it like this, I realise how truly stupid I can be. How we all can be. Just FORGET about silly self-doubts. Go for it. Seize the day. Insert another motivational saying here.

Basically, don't dim your own light.